Up to faith
We believe that love is something that happens to us. We “fall in love” and fall out of it too. But that is not love—just infatuation. Love is a choice. Love is an action. Love is something we do. At its best, we can even love the unlovable.
We also believe that happiness is something that happens to us. And to some extent that is true. Events can make us happy; events can make us sad. But we can also choose to dwell in sadness or to let it pass and instead choose happiness.
Happiness can be intense, but it tends to fade. I think sometimes when we speak of wanting happiness we really mean peace. Peace, too, we think of as something that happens to us. But it too is a choice. We can choose inner-peace even in the midst of strife.